
Dunning-Kruger
This one is about how a caretaker relationship is a lot like a marriage, but with someone who I'd never ever ever marry. Ever. #caretaking

Superstar
So I have been in an unusually long absence from the page, which can be explained by the fact I am training a new caretaker and that is completely exhausting. So exhausting I can't even word this sentence in a way that sounds cleverer (is that a word? No, seriously, I'm Brazilian). That reminded me of how freakishly clueless people seem to be when it comes to the reality of paying someone to keep you alive, so I thought I'd return with something on the subject. This is my por

A Primariness In Color
And sometimes it can feel a little surreal to use all the money you have supporting a woman child. If you add the "because otherwise you could die", it makes a lot more logical sense but man... it's still odd. You'd have to see it to get it. [ IMAGE DESCRIPTION: 1 horizontal panel, titled "Caretaker #3". At the right side of the page, a woman is sitting on the floor, wearing a short dress, flats and a blue bow with white dots on her hair. She's turned back, and is playing wit

Lucky
Sorry I've been late so much, Saturdays have been so busy! So continuing with the caretaker series today, to show that it's not always awful. It can be an incredibly humanizing experience for both people, but finding someone who takes pleasure in simply giving care, as opposed to taking pleasure in ownership of another person, is proving to be a real test of luck. I dedicate this to the brilliant caretaker I once had, who I had to leave in order to pursuit my sunshine elsewhe

Boiling Frog
Sometimes it's not just about mind games designed to stroke a fragile ego, sometimes it's about a very real possibility of being alone at home with a possible sociopath, it's realizing that their devotion to a low paying career is not really motivated by the love of the elderlies, but by the opportunity to do things to them that I didn't stay long enough to name. #disability #caretaking

Check Mate
This little drawing is part of a series that I drew recently based on some of the experiences I had with caretakers during the last couple years, which was when I first started to hire help. I was feeling troubled by the fact I hadn't yet drawn about any of the caretakers I've had, even though in a lot of ways my life kinda revolves around them, so I challenged myself to do this initial effort and see if I could draw more about this messy messy business. I won't be posting th

The Giving Tree Is A Mother
For a long time in my life I felt deeply troubled by the burden put on my mother when she unknowingly gave birth to a child who, by simply being alive, would forever use every single drop of her life energy. Just like everything else related to my disability, in my family this was never consciously thought about, only vaguely implied, dislocated hints at my villainy, the devilishness inherent in me, never to be admitted in a conversation - maybe because crimes without a crimi